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Tuesday Devotion: Kindness & Compassion
Wednesday Devotion: Parenting
The first church I served under appointment in Florida was in Gainesville and I love the four years I spent there. It was the first church I served after seminary and together Ryan and I worked as Associate Pastor and College Pastor where we learned a lot, honed our skills, grew in our faith journey and learned how to be first-time parents. Before Emmaline was born, we had a chance to attend a Parenting Conference led by Dr. Tim and Darcy Kimmel from the ministry Grace-based Families out of Arizona. We were not yet parents, so of course we already had it “all figured out” but we attended the conference and bought the book and learned a lot that weekend.
Fast forward to today. Before I was a mom, I knew very little about being a mom. Before I was a mom of two, I knew very little about being a mom of two. But I am learning… everyday. I share this because in many ways, Sunday’s sermon topic on Bearing with One Another ties me back to how little I knew and how much I still have to learn when it comes to being the mom God created me to be. I have been wrestling with this in my spirit for almost a year now and feel excited about how God might use my past experience to inform my present.
In a month, I will be facilitating a Parenting Class on Sunday mornings for any parent that is looking for a community with which they can bear with one another. This will be a place of no judgment, authentic talk and lots of grace. We will use the book and the teaching videos of Dr. Tim Kimmel and let the Holy Spirit be our Guide. We will begin this group on Sunday, June 19th at 10:00am and follow through with it until the end of July. We will read together the book, Grace-Based Parenting: Setting your Family Free and share and pray and encourage one another on this journey of parenting. There is no age-limit or requirements, other than being a parent and actually reading the book, but I invite you to join me. Not because I am the “expert,” not because I have it all figured out, not even because I am a pastor, but because we all need a safe place to bear with one another on this journey of parenthood and grow more and more into the moms and dads God calls us to be.
You will see more info on our social media and in the church announcements over the next few weeks about this class. You can also sign up on the Events Page of our church website at the end of May. In case your summer is swamped or you are traveling a lot but interested in just reading the book, I encourage you to purchase it online. If you can commit to being in the class and come on a regular basis, I would love for you to join me starting next month, on Sunday, June 19th at 10am at church.
Remember we aren’t raising kids, we are raising adults and hopefully grace-filled ones that will change the world. I hope you will come and bear with me and with one another on this crazy and joy-filled journey!
~ Pastor Rachel DeLaune
You can purchase the book on Amazon in either Kindle or Paper at the link below.
Tuesday Devotion: Bear with One Another
Thank You for Supporting Ukraine!
We want to thank you for your donations of medications and financial contributions given to Ukrainian refugees who have fled to Poland.Rabbi Steven W. Engel, Senior Rabbi, Congregation of Reform Judaism, traveled to Poland to deliver much-needed medications and supplies. Rabbi Engel took 10 duffel bags filled with over 500 pounds of medical aid. We have collected over $85,000 in aid and counting. It will be transferred to Krakow and the cash placed directly into the hands of Ukrainian Refugees. Along with 25 of his colleagues, we have collected over 2 tons of aid and more than $650,000.
To learn more, check out his blog at rabbireflections.com.
Growing Up Is Not Easy!
The “Wonder Years” are not always the wonderful years one dreams of. Anxiety and depression DO impact youth! When dread is the emotion your tween or teen feels each morning when the alarm clock jingles, it might be time to consider finding a confidant and advisor to help them through a particularly challenging time in life. As with most health problems, waiting to see if the blues go away isn’t always a wise move. Where to turn?
You may discover that help is easier to find than you thought! 4Pillars Counseling & Enrichment Center has recently opened on our second campus, known as the Reeves Center. The newly remodeled Reeves Center is just 15 minutes south of First United Winter Park, at 1100 N Fern Creek Ave., Orlando.
We invite you to meet one of our counselors, Jessica Popov, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor at 4 Pillars. Jessica has a broad background in the education field, from Associate Course Director of Psychology and course development at a college, to SAFE Coordinator in public schools. She has had extensive experience working with students in emotional distress in schools and developing appropriate academic support. Jessica has been in private practice for 6 years and works with individuals 11 years old through adult. In addition, she works with adults struggling with mental health difficulties, as well as helping families through the death and mourning process.
You may reach Jessica at 407-637-6348 or via email: jessicaplmhc@gmail.com
Wednesday Devotion: Too Much Energy
Last night Ryan, the kids and I were settling down to eat our dinner of a Taco feast and I asked who wanted to pray. Emmaline was the first to volunteer and as always, she gives the most beautiful prayers with deep love and adoration for God and thankfulness for her food and everyone, I mean everyone listed out in her family. Then Charlie offered up his prayer: “Peanut Butter, Jelly Sandwich.
When it’s time to pray, we bow our heads and say, Thank you God for EVRYTHING this Happy, Happy Day! AMEN
“Beautiful Prayer Charlie,” I respond and then I add, “Would you like to say a prayer all of your own?” (Trying to teach our kids to speak from the heart)
To which he responded, with a long, exasperated sigh, “Ahhhh, no thanks, that just takes too much energy!”
Well, okay, not what we were planning to hear, but point taken kid, point taken.
Ryan and I looked at each other and laughed but in that moment, I was reminded of the importance of authenticity and rest. You see, in his 4-year old heart, his Peanut Butter Jelly Sandwich prayer was plenty good for Jesus and he just wanted to get on with eating his taco…thank you very much. But I was the one pushing for the performance of faith; he was the one actually living it out. I was the one trying to teach deep theology and perfected prayer language to my 4-year old and he was just being himself before his Creator.
His honest and truthful response reminded me of our need to just be ourselves before the one that loves us more than we could ever know. Charlie’s exasperated sigh also taught me that the practice of faith shouldn’t be exhausting but it should be exhilarating. Charlie’s facial expression reminded me that sometimes the world expects too much of us and God is inviting us instead just to rest in God’s presence.
As I thought on this experience more today and then wove it through my experience of the lesson of Forgiveness on Sunday, I wonder how many of my brothers and sisters struggle to forgive others because they have not forgiven themselves. I grew up in a very healthy church without a lot of toxicity and drama. As a young Christian, I was encouraged to ask questions, be my true self and that grace is offered even in my failures. But how many of us have grown up in a church, or family or denomination that sought to “prove one’s holiness?” How many of those people that we love are carrying spiritual trauma done to them by a faith leader or spiritual leader or one’s own interpretation of the Scriptures? I don’t know all of your stories, but my heart breaks for those that have so much shame piled on them because they felt like being a Christian was more about the perfect performance rather than a friendship with the perfect Savior.
My prayer for you is to embrace your imperfections and questions and doubts and incomplete prayers and inability to forgive yourself, and let Jesus turn it into something beautiful. To let beautiful things come from ashes. I hope you never hear me say that your Peanut Butter Jelly Sandwich prayer isn’t “good enough” and I hope you never fall into the trap of thinking that worshipping and following Jesus “takes too much energy.” Truthfully, when done the right way, following Jesus and being who you truly are leads to abundant life; a life that is free and unshackled and isn’t out to prove anything. Maybe we struggle with forgiveness because we have forgotten that. Maybe you are too far removed from our honest, child-like selves that call things out for what they really are. Know that you can always come to Jesus as you are, bringing what is your best and letting God fill in the gaps. And so I encourage you this week to be honest about what is life-giving in your spiritual practices and what wears you out. Pursue that which brings you abundance of life because at the end of the day, it isn’t about our perfection, but about our God’s perfect love.
Tuesday Devotion: Forgive One Another
A Wiggly, Jiggly, Loose Tooth Kind of Faith
It was an exciting weekend in the DeLaune household; Emmaline lost her first tooth! Her bottom middle one has been loose for almost a month and several of her friends in her Kindergarten class had already lost a few of theirs. For weeks she has been eating extra apples and wiggling it at night. We even took her to see one of the Pediatric Dentistry Nurses to check and see how long we should wait before helping her pull it out. But over the last week, it became apparent that it was time because her new tooth had grown in behind it and was already showing. While there was fear and a little bit of pain behind this first new experience, she bravely, with the help of her Daddy, pulled it out on Sunday afternoon. She was so proud of herself for this milestone and that she had had the guts to do it. While Sunday night was filled with conversations about what the tooth fairy might leave for her and what she should do if she wakes up and meets the tooth fairy, my Mommy/Pastor brain was processing the pain and joy of change.
God created our bodies to naturally move and shift during transition. Sometimes it is a little painful, with a tiny bit of blood like when we lose our baby teeth, but the losing of one thing makes room for something bigger, better and more permanent. Our bodies were created as we grow to embrace biological change, movement, shifting and new beginnings and while scary at first, they open us up to opportunities and situations that are bigger, better and more permanent. But it doesn’t just happen in our bodies, but as spiritual beings, we are all changing hopefully to look more like Jesus. In order to do that, things have to fall out or be removed so that the permanent foundations of our faith, spiritual practice and deep relationships can move on to being Bigger and Better.
Are you following my logical here? I am comparing the loss of teeth to the loss of hurts or habits or sin or brokenness that is painful at first to let go of, but makes room for something much more sustainable in the long run. It is the same comparison the Apostle Paul makes about Christian maturity and moving from spiritual milk to solid food in his writings. As we grow from a young faith, to a mature faith, we would call that Sanctification, we are growing into our permanent and strong selves that reflect the light of Christ.
Right after the famous 1 Corinthians 13 text that is often read at weddings, the Apostle Paul finishes his chapter with verses 8-13.
8 Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. 9 For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; 10 but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. 13 And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.
If you would, take a moment to reflect on how you have “put away childish things” as Paul writes. Like Emmaline’s loss of her first tooth, the pain of losing it actually made room for good to come next, for maturity to continue. But we all have something. Some of us have experienced more loss than others over the last few years and so I invite you to reflect on that and name the pain associated with it. Name the discomfort in losing your routine, your comfort, your friendships, your freedoms, your expectations or maybe even your health over these last few years. Then after you name that thing or relationship, lament to God about how it felt to lose something you held so dear. Cry out to God, like we see over and over again in the Psalms and be honest about how much it hurt to get used to something only to see it disappear. It isn’t selfish or childish to name these feelings aloud, it is simply HUMAN and God invites you to speak because God never ceases to listen.
Pause and wait in your lament. Sit in your discomfort. Rest in your honesty.
Then, as you slowly move out of your lament, turn your thoughts to the new space that has made room in your life for something BIGGER and BETTER. Like Emmaline’s new adult tooth, it was ready to come in and so it had to push that baby tooth out of the way. What good and natural thing now has space in your life and faith to grow? What is developing in you, now that something from your young faith has been let go of? Maybe it is how you have let go of people-pleasing and now focus more on pleasing God. Maybe it is spending less time trying to be perfect and more time resting in God. Maybe you let go of a toxic relationship or an abusive understanding of Scripture or an authoritarian view of the faith? Wherever you have seen the loss and the letting go, give thanks because God is always up to something GOOD.
AMEN
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Holy Week Devotion from Pastor Rachel
Welcome to the week of Holy Week! We have *almost* made it to the end of the story, and so now we begin the holiest of days as we grieve and watch and wait.
In my readings this week, I was sent by my Spiritual Director to an article by a priest and a rabbi. Father Melton and Rabbi Leder talked with the journalist about how to make this Holy Week sacred. Both of our traditions have many of their roots found deep in this week. For our Jewish brothers and sisters, it is the story of the Passover and the deliverance from Egypt that brings healing and transformation in their lives. In our own lives, those of us that follow Jesus, we are celebrating that death is not the end of the story. We celebrate that God, through Jesus experienced the very worst that we could ever experience and so when we go through the worst of the worst, we know that we are not alone. And so both traditions celebrate the work of God in our midst.
But this week is already busy and we might miss out on the joy if we move too quickly. This is an extremely busy week for me, not to mention one of my children being out of school on Friday and Monday, so I have 4 days to get 5 days worth of work done. As a mom, I have taken on the Easter Bunny duties and have baskets to prepare, “Easter-best” clothes to get ready, cookies to make, classroom celebrations to prepare for all while trying to keep my children centered on the fact that Easter isn’t about the Bunny, but the cross. And while chocolate candy is great, abundant life lived with God is much, MUCH better!
All that to say, I don’t want to miss out on where God is already present this week. I invite you to do the same. One way to not miss the holiness of Holy Week is to slow down and pay attention; notice where God is present. We tend to rush through our days and weeks without stopping to notice the moment-to-moment encounters we have with the living God. Just this morning, I did something out of my normal routine and encountered the gentleness of the checkout clerk at the Dollar Tree. She could have been tired and impatient, even rude, but she was joy-filled and helpful. Then I got to work and headed into the Marcy Chapel to prepare for our Holy Week Chapel lesson for our MSEE Preschool and I encountered a husband and wife that told me that they had just finished praying for the pastors of this church. WOW! In just two short hours, I had encountered God, twice! God is always present, always participating, always surprising.
Now this is just one example, but I am sure you can think of other holy encounters from the last few days. Pay attention to those. They aren’t happenstance or coincidence, they are moments, thin spaces, where God is revealing Godself and showing you more of what the Kingdom of God is like. Maybe you have been more present this Lenten Season. Maybe you have joined a Lenten Small Group and met with new people on similar paths. Maybe you have added something into your spiritual practice or let go of something that was weighing you down or distracting you. Maybe you have deepened your prayer life, or become more generous or worked for justice in a new way. Whatever it is that you have done in this Lenten season, keep going. Keep being present and open and ready.
If you need a few ways to continue to not miss out on where God is present this week, join us for Stations of the Cross from 5-7PM or 8-9PM on Thursday and Friday in the Courtyard. Come and join in an intimate contemporary worship experience for Maundy Thursday or a music driven service of darkness on Good Friday. Whatever you do, come and just BE. Open your heart, and mind and soul to God’s presence within you and then just speak these words, “Come Lord Jesus, Come.”